Feeling Sorry for Yourself is Underrated
Don’t stuff it down and move along. Give yourself a break.
Sometimes you need a good pity party.
Take the time to feel the sadness, the chagrin. The wistfulness of loss tightening the belly. An aching sense of what is gone that was never going to be yours. The hurt, radiating like heat in your chest.
Noticing how it feels, let go of judgment. There are no shoulds or musts invited to this event.
Instead, welcome your deepest compassion.
It’s the love you would give a distraught friend, acknowledging his plight and assuring him, Yep, this is some genuinely difficult BS.
And soon, your focus expands a bit.
You remember how common suffering is to humans. You are not the only one injured.
Living on Earth takes a toll on its inhabitants.
The pain is proof you are alive. You were here.
Opening the gates to kindness and comfort, your wounds are flooded with healing.
Exhaling the struggle, you breathe in what you need.
Maybe forgiveness. Maybe strength. Maybe grace.
Always love.
kek
To learn more about the science and practice of self-compassion, check out Dr. Kristin Neff’s site, https://self-compassion.org/
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